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The Happiest Toddler on the Block: How to Eliminate Tantrums and Raise a Patient, Respectful, and Cooperative One- to Four-Year-Old: Revised Edition |  | Author: Harvey Karp
Publisher: Bantam
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Edition: Revised
Pages: 336
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Dimensions (in): 8.4 x 5.8 x 1.1
ISBN: 0553384422
Dewey Decimal Number: 649.122
EAN: 9780553384420
ASIN: 0553384422
Publication Date: August 26, 2008
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Product Description
This streamlined revision of the breakthrough bestseller by renowned child-development expert Dr. Harvey Karp will do even more to help busy parents survive the “terrible twos” and beyond....
In one of the most revolutionary advances in parenting of the past twenty-five years, Dr. Karp revealed that toddlers often act like uncivilized little cavemen, with a primitive way of thinking and communicating that is all their own. In this revised edition of his parenting classic, Dr. Karp has made his innovative approach easier to learn—and put into action—than ever before.
Combining his trademark tools of Toddler-ese and the Fast-Food Rule with a highly effective new green light/yellow light/red light method for molding toddler behavior, Dr. Karp provides fast solutions for today’s busy and stressed parents. As you discover ways to boost your child’s good (green light) behavior, curb his annoying (yellow light) behavior, and immediately stop his unacceptable (red light) behavior you will learn how to soothe his stormy outbursts with amazing success—and better yet, prevent these outbursts before they begin! And the new thirty-item glossary of Dr. Karp’s parenting techniques will save you valuable time when you need to instantly calm an out-of-control child. The result: fewer tantrums, less yelling, and more happy, loving time for you and your child.
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 Humor and Help for Frazzled Toddler Parents January 22, 2009
L. P. Arias (Decatur, GA)
54 out of 56 found this review helpful
The basic gist of the book is that in order to get through to our toddlers' still-developing "cave kid" brains, we need to, first, mirror what they are saying so that they know their feelings and communications have been heard and are acknowledged, and, second, use a particular way of talking that relies on short, repetitive phrases. Sounds simple in a way, but the truth is that this is not a very intuitive way to communicate -- particularly when you're dealing with a child who is very upset. The author points out that our typical response to an upset child is to talk quietly, trying to dissuade or distract the child from the situation -- and that's definitely true as far as my usual strategy . . . until I read this book. I first put the book's technique into action actually when I was still just halfway through the book. My 2 1/2 year old daughter woke up in hysterics at about 2 AM. When I went to her room half-dazed and desperate to calm her, I just reflexively resorted to the technique because I'd been reading about it the prior evening. I started mirroring her emotions with words such as, "You're crying! You say, Mommy hold me! You say, Mommy I'm scared!" As per the book's instructions, I also tried to capture at least some of my daughter's distraught emotional state in my tone of voice and with my gestures. I kept repeating the technique as she progressed through a few demands over the course of 5 - 10 minutes. But, the point is that the situation ended in JUST 5 or 10 minutes (not an hour or more as it has sometimes been in the past). I also remember clearly at one point, as I was mirroring my daughter's woes, she looked me in the eye and said, "Yeah!" She knew that she was being heard! For me, that moment showed me the validity of this technique. Toddler's are pretty smart, but they are emotionally immature ("cave kids") and their language skills are not that well developed. So, when a young child is upset and trying to get her point across, and then the parent responds with soft words that try to diminish the upset rather than acknowledge it . . . of course the kid gets even madder and more frustrated. Here she is screaming her little lungs out trying to get her point across and all Mommy does is try to hush her up. When my daughter responded "Yeah!" to my mirroring statements what I really saw in her eyes was relief: Mommy gets it! Mommy understands what I'm saying! Soon after that point, she let me calm her and put her back in her crib. And as I lay nearby until she fell back asleep, all I could think to myself was, "Oh my gosh -- this stuff works!!" I also want to mention that the rest of the book has a lot of great reminders about how to best communicate with our toddlers so that they feel respected and loved, while we get the essential outcomes we need and want to keep our kids safe and our homes sane. Reading these tips has reminded me that we can get a lot more out of our kids (and really out of life in general) with honey than with vinegar. Our toddlers want to have fun and feel empowered and the path of least resistance is often to let them do both, while still ensuring that essential rules are respected in the household. I appreciate the author's candor in saying that with toddlers a "fair" outcome may be the toddler having it her way 90% of the time, with the parent winning 10% of the time (at least, if we're smart, that's how the toddler will perceive things). So, it's not a 50-50 deal, but I'm okay with that because at the end of the day I know that the 10% stuff is what is really essential for me and my family and the 90% is mostly what being a parent should be about -- spending time playing with and enjoying our kids.
An amazing book - Dr. Karp is a genius! February 23, 2009
happy5117 (Redmond, WA)
26 out of 28 found this review helpful
I first heard of Dr. Karp on The Dr. Phil Show.
I have read many parenting books and this is one of my all time favorites! It is so easy to read and understand. The information you get from this book I have not read anywhere else - how a toddler's mind works, the "Golden Rule of Communication" and the "Toddler-ese". Dr. Karp explains this information so clearly and easily. It makes a lot of sense and best of all IT WORKS!!! You will be astonished.
Here's an example: My 2 year old did not want to get out of the tub. She'd been in there forever and it was time to get dinner on the table. Finally I just drained the tub on her and she had a fit. On a scale of one to ten her tantrum was a 10. After trying Dr. Karp's techniques I saw an almost immediate result. In less than a minute she was down to a 7. In about five minutes the tantrum was over and she came out of the tub on her own.
There was another surprise to this event. A couple hours later she mentioned how "Mommy had flushed her water away." I asked her if she was still mad at me and she looked at me in astonishment and said, "Oh no, we are friends, I LOVE you!" and gave me a big hug. This event actually brought us closer.
Dr. Karp's techniques are very respectful to your child and really allows them to feel like they were heard. It not only calms tantrums but also helps cut down on future tantrums because your child feels closer to you.
Dr. Karp really loves and respects toddlers and it shows. This book is GREAT!
On an additional note, Dr. Karp has an equally great book called the "Happiest Baby on the Block." Again information you won't get anywhere else and it works. This book gives great tips on how to calm newborns and is my favorite gift for new parents. If you do happen to give it as a gift, give it before the baby is born so that the new parents can get up to speed on his techniques.
I just think Dr. Karp is a genius when it comes to babies and toddlers.
Reduces Tantrums! December 20, 2008
A. Rasmussen (Louisiana)
8 out of 9 found this review helpful
I have a sensitive, shy 19 month old girl who cannot communicate well with words (yet). Although my husband and I are very careful of her feelings, we were not sure how to ease her frustration when her requests are denied. Now we know how to tell her (in short bursts) we understand what she wants... even if she cannot have it. The Happiest Toddler On the Block has been a valuable communication tool for our little family. I would most definitely recommend it to anyone seeking ways to reduce tantrums (do not expect for your child to miraculously stop getting angry or frustrated). Be ready to do some work and your child will feel understood and emotionally cared for.
Great, practical advice February 13, 2009
T. Glover (Atlanta, GA)
6 out of 7 found this review helpful
I read this book in one day and found it very helpful. Some of it is intuitive, but not for me, so it's nice that someone can articulate these concepts so people like me can put them to use!! I read this on a plane and came home that night and immediately starting using some of the teachings. It was amazing how well it worked! I could see a look on my 2 year old's face that said "she gets what I'm saying!!" It was great and has helped me better communicate to her. Thank you.
An outstanding book for everyone! January 6, 2010
! Aesop - Sam SONG (earth)
2 out of 2 found this review helpful
This book clearly shows readers the correct and basic skills to communicate with toddlers while toddlers actually are more like "uncivilized little cave-kids." Parents have to really understand toddlers are far from rational or logical person and they are not adult. The author tells readers that parents' important task is to teach your child the finer points of civilization, such as manners, patients, and concern for others.
This book points out that toddlers can learn sign language easier than we could imagine. It also instructs parents how to make up own signs easily.
This book shows parents could be much more successful if they deliver their message in toddler-ese and parents have to know toddlers understand primitive languages better.
This book also teaches parents the ways to encourage good behavior, to curb annoying behavior, and to put the brakes on bad behavior.
I especially love those lovely little drawings in the book. I guess all readers may feel the same.
I believe what I learned in this book can also be used on many adults in my daily life.
This is an outstanding book for everyone!
Sam Song
Author,
Learn Chinese Through Song! with great fun and joy!
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